Day 27. Nelson Mandela reminds us to learn to love again, during lockdown

Many things have changed since the outbreak of the covid-19 virus pandemic and subsequent global lockdown.

News reports

News reports reflect a change in global behavior. The crime scene has changed with a decrease in violent crimes. Nature is returning to a new normal without all the pollution being poured into the systems. For example, Dolphins have been sighted in the canals in Italy. Rivers and lakes are recuperating while new plans are being made to keep it this way.  

Although they are at home, people are connecting more than ever. They have settled down to a new normal. The vibe that is going out contains new messages of love, compassion, inspiration, solidarity and sharing. We are all in the same boat.

Parents are spending time with their children. Partners are reconnecting. Families are bonding. Societies are taking care of their people. Communities are looking out for each other. Governments are doing what they can to secure a future for their people. Global leaders are helping each other.

People are learning to love and care again.

Nelson Mandela[i] also reminds us about ‘learning to love again’ while in lockdown.

Nelson Mandela and learning to love.

Just imagine being branded a murderer, criminal, terrorist and blacklisted as one the most dangerous men on the planet. Just imagine being sentenced for life in a maximum prison on a remote island on the Southern tip of Africa. Just imagine being separated from your loved ones, family and friends. Just imagine being totally isolated from the world.

Just imagine what must have gone through Madiba’s mind during nearly 28 years in lockdown. How he had to struggle with himself while reprogramming his heart and mind to forgive and let go of all the iniquities. This takes courage.

Just imagine what he must have gone through to bring a whole new mindset, a new heart-set and a new season of forgiveness, love, compassion, healing and prosperity.

Nelson Mandela shares his secret with us.

 “No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite. Nelson Mandela

Are you using this time in lockdown, to learn to love again?

To do list

Here are a few ideas to help you on this path:

  • How do you want to be loved? What do you need?
  • What is your love language? How do you ‘speak love’?
  • Can you give love? How? Can you receive love? How?
  • Do you teach your significant other how you want to be loved? Why? Why not? Remember – it’s a learning curve
  • Are you invested in making your significant other happy? Why? Why not?
  • How does your spouse/partner want to be loved?
  • Do you speak their love language? What is their love language?
  • What about the love languages of your children, family, friends, colleagues? Do you know what it is? Remember we all differ.
  • What does your religion say about love? Is it real or repetative? Is it working?
  • What do you want to learn about love during this lockdown period? Why?
  • What are you going to do to learn to love again?
  • Start with self? What do you love about yourself? Why?
  • What do you love about life? Why?
  • What do you love about lockdown? Why?
  • What do you love about your work? Your family? Your future?
  • Who would you like to take along into your new future? Why?
  • Who do you need to leave behind – out of love? Why?
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[i] Mandela, Nelson, R. (1994). Illustrated. The long walk to freedom. The

Autobiography of Nelson Mandela. Little, Brown & Company: London.

     Hattingh, Brenda. (2014). Sevens steps to securing the Madiba Magic in life and 

          leadership. Currency Communications (Pty. Ltd.); Johannesburg.