All the unexpected and sudden changes are scrambling, not only our lives, but also the subconsciousness mind of humanity is getting a jolt. What was once above, is now below. What was below and hidden, is now above.
Hiding our fears
One of the things we usually hide and/or suppress – are our fears. Now these fears are rising to the surface, seeking attention and resolution.
People are caught up in a circle of fear and anxiety. The fear of loss, pain, and dashed dreams are rising. People are fearful about their future. They are anxious about their survival. People worry about the future of their country, even the future of humanity as a whole.
The question is: How do we cope with our fears?
Nelson Mandela once again shares his wisdom of living fearlessly, with us.
Nelson Mandela and fear
We can assume that during his long and arduous trials and subsequent sentencing, Nelson Mandela, like the rest of us, also struggled with his fears.
Just imagine the fear of losing his freedom, losing contact with loved ones, fear of the unknown and even the fear of possibly losing his life as the death penalty was still a possibility.
But instead of hiding from, suppressing, ignoring and/or allowing his fears to control him – Madiba rose above this all. Under all and every circumstance he stayed calm, cool and collected. He was fearless and undisturbed by what the outcome could be. Madiba leaves us a message of how to achieve this level of self-discipline and self-mastery.
Nelson Mandela said:
“I have fought against white domination, and I have fought against black domination. I have cherished the ideal of a democratic and free society in which all persons live together in harmony and with equal opportunities. It is an ideal which I hope to live for and to achieve. But if needs be, it is an ideal for which I am prepared to die.”
Living fearlessly doesn’t mean that you are without fear. Living fearlessly is a choice of acknowledging and then rising above the fear. It is part of the mature person who has made the choice not allow fear to control their lives. It is the outcome of knowing who you are, of self-coaching, self-discipline and self-mastery.
Nelson Mandela could achieve this level of living fearlessly because he had a calling, he had heard his higher soul purpose. He was connected to universal wisdom. He was prepared to give his life to achieve this goal.
Learning how to live fearlessly
We need to understand a few important factors:
- Know who you are and what you purpose is
- Commit yourself to your soul purpose and personal calling, be of service, bring your piece of the puzzle to the table. The rest will fall into place.
- Don’t allow any fear to stand in your way of fulfilling your purpose
Once you have achieved these few steps – it will be easier to overcome fear. Fear is the only thing standing in your way or achieving success.
Important note: Most peoples’ greatest fear is the fear of death and dying. Once you can rise above the fear of death, you are free to express yourself in whatever form you choose.
Question: What can we do in order to live fearlessly? A bit of background about fear.
What is fear?
The dictionary explains fear as ‘an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain, or harm’. It explains further: ‘fear is being afraid of someone or something, as likely to be dangerous, painful, or harmful.
Fear also implies a loss of courage. Fear comes from being disconnected, without a real purpose ignorant of self and/or being disinformed. Fear is about living the lie – the result of the lack of truth.
The universal trigger for fear is the threat of harm, real or imagined. This threat can be for our physical, emotional or psychological well-being. While there are certain things that trigger fear in most of us, we can learn to become afraid of nearly anything. Just as we learn to be afraid – we can also learn to be fearless. This process takes courage.
The opposite of fear is peace, safety and security. This comes from the whole or healed mind and heart. Fearful people need healing and need to learn to love and be love again. (see day 28)
Fear and the shadow ego-self
Unfortunately, the shadow ego-self attaches value to external circumstances as if your life depended on it. The ego finds safety in money, a job, positions, possessions, relationships, in health and/or even life itself. When one of more of these external circumstances are threatened, fear sets in. The shadow ego-self will do everything in its power to prevent the disintegration of the old as it fears change.
Fear and anxiety are part and parcel of the disconnected, shadow ego-self. It is that part of self, whispering all the bad stuff in your ear. Things like: You won’t survive, you are going to lose everything; You will die; People are going to laugh at you; You won’t succeed.
However, once you know that there is another of managing the curveballs of life – you can manage these fear attacks.
The real-me authentic self and living fearlessly
The real-me self is connected, centered, and grounded in universal truth and higher values. It is connected to God, Goddess, All-that-is. Here it is calm and peaceful. Nothing from the lower shadow ego-world can disturb this peace and happiness. Not even the implications of the Covid-19 virus pandemic can reach this far.
The reason is: You can rise above the fear frequency, if you know how. You can also remain there and live a life free of fear. This takes a lot of self-coaching, self-discipline and self-mastery.
Currently we all have time to practice.
Rising above fear
We can rise above the fear by mastering the fear and by learning to coaching ourselves. The way you do this is:
- Identify the fear – give it a name.
- Find a positive alternative. Ask ‘what if’?.
- Ask: What can be worse than this? Give it a name.
- Find a positive alternative. Ask, ‘what if’?
- Again ask: What can be worse than this? Give it a name etc…
- Keep on with this process until you have exhausted all your options.
- Then take each fear – one by one – and reclaim the energy you are spending on keeping this fear alive
- Identify the thoughts and feelings behind each fear – let go
- Place an alternative in the place of each fear
- Remember, truth sets you free
- Keep on with this process until you feel better
- Stay vigilant. Take care to overcome the fear if and when it returns
- Don’t go looking for fears that aren’t there. Stop being a drama queen
- Pray, mediate and ask for help
- This is not a one-time event. It is sometimes a lifelong challenge to manage and master your fears
- Get assistance if necessary.
Fears can evaporate
First, remember, just ignoring your fears and pretending as if they don’t exist is delusional. They will keep on returning – placing more pressure on you to stop and take note. You can even become ill.
However, you will come to realise that as soon as you stop, identify and attend to your fears, new ideas, plans, solutions and a deeper truth emerges. Inner peace, safety and security is restored. A shift to the next level of functioning – to a higher, level of consciousness and new level of thinking, takes place.
Here we find love, compassion, peace and prosperity. At this level nothing can disturb this inner peace.
At this level, fear evaporates. Many treasures lie waiting for us just behind our fears. However, it takes courage to master overcoming our fears and claiming our rewards.
To do list
Here are a few ideas to help you on this path:
- Do the short exercise above
- What do you learn about yourself? About your fears?
- How do you feel now that your fears are out in the open?
- Are you or your fears now in control of your life? Why?
- What are you going to do to stay vigilant and keep your fears at bay?
- Do you understand your personal purpose and calling?
- Are you afraid of death and dying? Why? Why not?
- What does your religion and/or faith say about fear?
- What do you still need healing from?
- What kind of rewards are you discovering just beyond your fears? How does this make you feel?
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